Why You Lose Your Voice in the Moments That Matter Most

You know what you're talking about. You're confident in smaller settings.

But when you need to speak up—in front of leadership, presenting to a group, or when the stakes are high—something shifts.

Your mind goes blank. Your voice gets quiet. You can't access what you know.

This isn't about lacking confidence. It's about status anxiety.

And it's keeping you from the recognition, advancement, and ease you deserve.

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This Is For You If...

You've been doing all the "right" things, but something still feels off
You've got more than enough strategy—but your results don't reflect what you know
You're ready to work with your nervous system, not against it
You want a career that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside

Hi, I'm Lee Bonvissuto

I’ve helped thousands of empathetic, capable leaders step into authentic authority and lead without losing ourselves.

I never saw myself as an expert, either.

I was confident doing the work. But the moment I had to talk about myself, I'd freeze.

Then I realized: perfectionism was making it impossible for me to be present. The moment I stopped trying to "fix" my voice, I could speak fully and freely.

This work isn't about performing confidence. It's about trusting yourself enough to express what you know—even when the power dynamics feel stacked against you.

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You'll Identify Your Confidence Archetype and Receive:

A detailed breakdown of your unique pattern—and how it's showing up in your communication and leadership
Clarity around what's been blocking consistent, easeful growth in your career
Actionable steps to shift the pattern—without abandoning yourself to do it
Insight into how your nervous system works, so you can work with it instead of against it

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Why You Lose Your Voice - Confidence Assessment

2-Minute Confidence Assessment

Why You Lose Your Voice

Discover your unique confidence style and unlock what's been holding you back from speaking up with authority in high-stakes moments.

5 questions • Instant results • Personalized guidance

Answer all 5 questions to see your results

Question 1 of 5

When do you feel most like yourself when speaking?

Not most confident—most like you

One-on-one or small trusted groups

I'm articulate with people I trust, but that disappears in bigger settings

When I've had time to think

I'm great in writing or with preparation, but freeze when put on the spot

When the stakes feel low

I'm insightful in casual moments, but tense up when it matters

When teaching something I know deeply

I'm confident in my expertise but struggle talking about myself

Question 2 of 5

How do you experience anxiety when speaking?

What actually happens in your body and mind?

My mind goes blank or I lose my train of thought

I know what I wanted to say but suddenly can't access it

Physical symptoms like racing heart or tension

My body reacts before my mind does, and it's distracting

I spiral in self-critique about how I come across

I'm so focused on perception that I can't be present

I absorb the energy in the room and get overwhelmed

I pick up on tension or judgment and it derails me

Question 3 of 5

What environments make you lose your voice?

Where does your confidence disappear?

Around dominant or aggressive personalities

I defer to people who speak loudly or take up space confidently

In formal or hierarchical settings

I'm fine with peers but shrink around senior leadership

In large groups or public speaking

The bigger the audience, the more I lose access to myself

In toxic or judgmental cultures

I can feel when a space isn't safe, and I shut down to protect myself

Question 4 of 5

What feedback have you gotten that stuck with you?

Even if it was years ago, what words still echo?

You need more executive presence or authority

Someone told me I don't 'command the room' the way leaders should

You're too quiet or need to speak up more

My quietness has been read as lack of confidence or competence

You ramble or need to be more concise

I've been told I lose people or don't get to the point efficiently

You're too sensitive or emotional

My empathy has been framed as a weakness

Question 5 of 5

What do you most want to trust about yourself?

If you could believe one thing fully, what would it be?

That my perspective is valuable even when it differs

I want to believe my viewpoint matters, even when others disagree

That I can think clearly under pressure

I want access to my intelligence even when I'm nervous

That my empathy is a strength, not a weakness

I want to know my sensitivity makes me better at this

That I deserve recognition without being arrogant

I want to own my expertise without feeling like I'm bragging

Ready to discover your confidence style?